Illustration by Jesse Lenz Sexting Shame & Suicide On the endure day of her life, Audrie Pott absolved through a affliction of boyish torment. A curvaceous blooming at Saratoga Top School, dressed in the cool-girl's compatible of a low-cut top and supershort skirt, she looked the aforementioned as always, but central she was agitation with humiliation. In the anniversary aback academy had started, girls had been giving her looks, and guys had congregated about phones, smirking. On Facebook, letters were pinging into her inbox, anniversary one carrying addition gut punch: "shit went down ahah jk i bet u already got abundant ppl talking about it so ill accumulate it to myself haha. . . ."
"honestly like absolutely no antic anybody knows. . . ."
"u were one amative mofo."
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An developed adviser handed her a dress-code corruption – her brim was too abbreviate – even admitting all the girls in her chic dressed that way and monitors rarely objected. She cut what classes she could, alarming off allure for two canicule in a row, acquisitive to abstain confrontations with accusatory girlfriends. Afresh Kathy Atabakhsh, one of her best friends, tore into her on the academy quad, accusing her of drinking, of apathy who she was, of acceptable a altered person. "She had been, literally, the best accepting you could accommodated – consistently honest and trustworthy," Kathy says, abandoning the adventure about a year later. "And I was so agitated that she had changed. It was harder for her to apprehend that from a abutting friend." She remembers the endure words she said to Audrie. "You allegation to appear aback to reality," Kathy told her.
At lunchtime, Audrie texted her mom at work: "Mom, amuse aces me up." Sheila Pott, a mortgage-loan officer, asked why and whether Audrie couldn't delay for her to accomplishment a business meeting. Audrie was insistent, and afresh chock-full answering texts.
When Sheila pulled up in her car afterwards that Monday afternoon on September 10th, 2012, Audrie jumped in but remained bashful on the abbreviate drive home. Sheila was acclimated to her 15-year-old daughter's moods and chock-full acute her. If they got to their ranch-style home, breadth they had been active abandoned calm aback Sheila had breach with her admirer the year before, Audrie aloof to her bedroom, with its Audrey Hepburn affiche and silk-upholstered window seat. About 20 account anesthetized afore Sheila absitively to analysis on her daughter. She absolved beyond the kitchen and down the affiliated carpeted anteroom to the bath aperture abutting Audrie's room. The aperture was locked. Audrie didn't answer. Sheila agape and agape again. Something about the blackout pushed a agitation button central her. She affective the aboriginal affair she could acquisition to advance the lock – the tiny metal rod at the end of her phone's earplug – and awash it into the doorknob. Flinging the aperture open, she confronted a afterimage now assuredly categorical in her memory. In the pale-peach bathroom, with its shell-shaped sink, gold accessories and attenuated bathtub, her alone adolescent was dangling from a belt absorbed to the array head, mascara streaking her face.
Sheila sprinted down the hall, aback into the kitchen, affective a knife and cut her babe down, aggravating to bethink how to accomplish CPR while dialing 911. Paramedics accustomed aural a few minutes. They restarted Audrie's heart, but it was too late. The brown-eyed babe who admired horses, art and pranks would never breathe on her own again.
There was no note, annihilation to explain why her accepted and appealing babe had done it. In the hospital, Sheila began retracing contempo events, searching for some clue as to what could accept pushed her babe to yield her own life. She anticipation about Audrie's aberrant blackout on the day afterwards a sleepover the weekend before. And she remembered the blooming ink she'd noticed about her daughter's cleavage, awe-inspiring arrangement that Audrie had banned to explain.
Saratoga Top School, with its country-club-worthyquad, Olympic-size pond basin and costly tennis courts, is one of those flush California schools American adolescence admit from movies and TV. Located in the affection of Silicon Valley, the academy is home to high-achieving accouchement of parents alive at Apple, eBay, Netflix and added tech corporations headquartered aural 50 miles. If the Saratoga Falcons did not consistently acreage a acceptable football team, there's alleviation in the actuality that anniversary admission chic has propelled dozens of kids into Harvard, Yale, Stanford and Berkeley.
The summer afore her death, Audrie had started to change, affective abroad from the kids she'd afraid out with aback average school. She had started to alcohol a little and had anachronous a hardly beforehand guy. If she drank, the backwardness that had afflicted her aback inferior top broiled away. She alone up. Sometimes, she alone up a lot.
On Labor Day weekend of the new academy year, Audrie's friend, let's alarm her "Sara" (many of the kids' names in this adventure accept been afflicted to assure their identities), said her parents were away, abrogation their white cottage-style abode with its affiliated blooming backyard in her care. Sara – 15, pretty, abbreviate and albino – and Audrie had become abutting that summer and were exploring a new branch of boys, bottles and baby parties, finer at parent-free houses, that the Saratoga kids alarm "kickbacks."
That Sunday, Sara told her parents that she was traveling to be sleeping over at Audrie's, and Audrie told her mother that she'd be sleeping over at Sara's. If Sheila collection Audrie to Sara's, she affected the girls would be spending the atramentous in their jammies in foreground of the television, or amusement over ice chrism and Facebook. But Sara had already texted about a dozen accompany to bead in for her kickback.
Eventually, 11 kids showed up, abounding of them to sip vodka and Gatorade cocktails. They all belonged to their class's accepted clique, the girls dressed as provocatively as possible, even by the apart standards of California top schools. "See-through shorts and thongs pulled up, shorts pulled down," recalls an beforehand girl. "That's what the 'cool girls' wore." The boys they afraid out with advantaged a compatible locally dubbed "swagfag" – snapback hat, PacSun catchbasin tops, knee-length chino shorts and Vans.
A few kids had brought some bottles of liquor – rum baseborn from Safeway, vodka bought for them by an developed at a liquor store. They eventually guzzled a canteen of tequila that Sara's parents kept in their own cabinet. The mixer of best was Gatorade, or downed straight. Audrie drank hardest of all.
When Audrie's old middle-school friends, Kathy, Amanda Le and addition girl, accustomed about 9 p.m., there was no music, just the complete of sloppy-drunk talk. Audrie was already barrier and incoherent, demography shots and authoritative out with altered boys on the living-room couch. Her accompany were appalled. "I never saw, I had just heard about times she had gotten drunk," says Kathy. "She was so altered than how I knew her to be. Because we were sober, we noticed aggregate that was traveling on, and they didn't apperceive what they were doing."
Sara seemed so besmirched if she greeted them at the aperture that Kathy doesn't anticipate her acquaintance even accustomed her. "There was accepting all over the tables," Kathy says. "Superdirty. They had aliment and a accomplished agglomeration of applesauce everywhere. Humans falling over, walking around. At some point, I was like, 'I feel superuncomfortable, everyone's so besmirched and we are just sitting here.' So we left."
Police interviews with the partyers disconnected calm what allegedly happened next. One of the boys Audrie fabricated out with was so bashed he started arrant and screaming. He threw up in the kitchen bore – into which anyone had already tossed Audrie's iPhone. Audrie was too blitzed to notice.
Then three boys she'd accepted aback average academy – Bill, Joe and Ron – and one of their friends, Mary, helped her admiral into a bedchamber (the names of these four accept been afflicted because of the boys' cachet in a adolescent case). Mary appears to accept larboard the allowance if the boys started affairs off Audrie's clothes and cartoon on her with Sharpies. In interviews with badge later, they admitted, to capricious degrees, appearance bisected of her face black, afresh affairs down her bra, demography off her shorts and cartoon scribbles, curve and circles on her breasts and nipples. Bill wrote "anal" aloft her ass with an arrow pointing down.
At some point, Mary alternate to acquisition Audrie in her underwear and put a absolute over her, afresh larboard the allowance again. With Audrie still sprawled out on the bed and unresponsive, the boys allegedly fingered her and took pictures on their phones.
When she woke up the next morning, Audrie didn't apperceive how she'd gotten into the bedchamber or breadth her clothes were. Afresh she looked down and saw assets all over her body, even abreast her animal area. She stumbled into the bath and berserk adjourned abroad the ink on her face. Aback her iPhone was drowned in barf in the kitchen sink, she had to borrow a friend's buzz to alarm her mother.
"She alleged me to appear get her, and I was afraid because it was beforehand than usual," Sheila recalls. In the car and all that day, Audrie was absorbed and quiet. They went to cafeteria at a restaurant and Audrie wouldn't eat. That afternoon, she bound herself in her bath for a affiliated time, and afresh awash with her computer in her bedroom. At dinnertime, Sheila stood beside her and noticed a blooming band of ink on her daughter's cleavage.
"What's that?" she asked. Audrie brushed her off.
Back in her room, Audrie wasn't so nonchalant. She was affianced in a agitated attack to ascertain what had happened to her body. She talked to Amanda on the buzz and told her acquaintance about alive up bare and graffitied. Amanda couldn't accord her any clues, added than to say she'd seemed actual bombed.
Throughout the evening, she became added and added desperate, her agitation and the bawdiness of her accompany axiomatic in Facebook transcripts. At about 5 p.m., Audrie and one of the boys had the afterward exchange:
AUDRIE: joe i allegation to allocution to u.
JOE: What
AUDRIE: one word
AUDRIE: marker
JOE: What about marker
AUDRIE: u apperceive what im talking about.
JOE: Fucking Henry
AUDRIE: i dont remeber annihilation about that.
AUDRIE: Mary had to acquaint me everything
AUDRIE: i affirm to god if u still accept those pictures illl killl u
JOE: They are deleted and I didn't yield them I affiance it wasn't me
JOE: And I'm apologetic about the marker
Audrie afresh messaged with addition boy who'd been at the party, "Sam." He asked her, "Does he [Joe] still accept any photos?"
AUDRIE: he said no but I anticipate its BS
SAM: ur fine. . . . ill accomplish abiding annihilation goes around
AUDRIE: it's gonna get out. Bits consistently does. Abnormally with the humans who were there.
She was aswell on Facebook with "Josh." The account from him was not good.
JOSH: lol that bits gets about haha anybody knows mostly aggregate hahaah
AUDRIE: oh my god. . . . i fucking abhorrence people.
That night, Audrie afresh confronted Joe on Facebook, accusing him of administration the photos. Audrie wrote that the "whole academy knows. . . . Do you apperceive how humans appearance me now? I fucked up and I can't do annihilation to fix it. . . . One of my best accompany hates me. And I now accept a acceptability I can never get rid of."
Writing to addition boy on Facebook, she said, "My activity is over. . . . I broke my activity and I don't even bethink how."
There accept been a amount of high-profile cases agnate to Audrie Pott's beyond the U.S. and Canada in contempo years. Steubenville, Ohio, spent months in the civic account endure summer afterwards two football players raped a bashed top academy babe at a party. In Louisville, Kentucky, in 2011, Savannah Dietrich, 16, got drunk, anesthetized out and woke up to afterwards apprentice two macho acquaintances had bare and sexually abused her, capturing the activity on their phones and afresh administration the pictures with pals. Savannah aggregate affirmation and went to the badge herself. The boys accepted and were initially accepted a appeal accord that complex the abomination allegation accepting expunged from their annal afore they angry 20. Savannah went accessible with their names afterwards that, about earning herself a contempt-of-court commendation because of the juvenile-court aloofness regulations, but ultimately afflicted the cloister to aphorism for the boys to accept a abomination on their annal for life. The bounded DA said that amends was "the a lot of severe" accessible in Kentucky adolescent court.
In Nova Scotia, Rehtaeh Parsons, 17, was taken off activity abutment and died this April, three canicule afterwards her mother apparent her blind in the bath of their Halifax home. According to her mother, the boyhood got bashed at a affair in 2011 and was gang-raped by four boys, who airtight a account of the arena and acquaint it online. Her mom said Rehtaeh was atrociously afraid by classmates for the next two years, even afterwards the ancestors confused to a new boondocks to get her abroad from the abuse. In aboriginal August, Canadian authorities answerable two 18-year-old boys with disseminating adolescent pornography.
Diane Rosenfeld, administrator of the Gender Violence Program at Harvard Law School, says such incidents are far added accepted than just those that wind up in cloister or absorb suicide. Most, she says, don't accomplish the bounded account or even adeptness academy administrators because the girls are too ashamed to do anything. Rosenfeld and her acceptance plan with girls, sometimes filing civilian apparel and auspicious them to graduate. Abounding are too ashamed to break in school.
Rape stats may be no college than in years past, but the numbers are as abominable as ever. Every two minutes, a animal advance happens in the U.S., and about 50 percent of the victims are beneath the age of 18, according to Katherine Hull, a backer for the Rape, Corruption and Incest Civic Network: "The demographic of top school- and college-age women is at accomplished accident for animal assault." Added than bisected of the incidents go unreported, advocates say. The adeptness to almanac and acquaint gang-sex assaults has added a new accessory to an old and animal abomination adjoin women. From Instagram to Snapchat to texting, adolescent humans with angry hormones and low actuation ascendancy are casual about what amounts to adolescent pornography. And the bodies a lot of frequently watched and anesthetized about are female.
"It's a absolute storm of technology and hormones," says advocate Lori Andrews, administrator of the Institute for Science, Law and Technology in Chicago. "Teen sexting is all a way of accumulative girls' fantasies of accepting a brilliant of their own movies, and boys bound in a allowance aloof about animal conquest."
But as of yet the law provides little aegis to the rights of those violated. Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act finer agency that no Internet provider can be affected to yield down agreeable for advancing a person's aloofness or even abasing them. "I could sue The New York Times for advancing my aloofness or Rolling Stone for abasing me," Andrews says. "But I couldn't sue and get my account off a website alleged sluttyseventhgraders.com."
The cast ancillary of this animal trend is that if gang-rape participants and bystanders almanac and advertise pictures of an assault, accessible abuse is affronted and cops and prosecutors accept affirmation they can yield to court. This can beggarly abduction victims get added amends than in years past. Arguably, the Steubenville abduction would never accept been prosecuted afterwards the video. However, aback so abounding of the incidents absorb juveniles, abuse is neither abrupt nor certain.
Prosecutors all over the nation are adverse the aforementioned amusing and accustomed quandary: How do you assure adolescent women from not just animal advance but the deepening of those assaults via the Internet? How abundant abuse can they admeasure out to boys, who in abounding cases are alone a year or two removed from childhood, who assume to anticipate they are committing pranks with phones and passed-out girls, and for whom the ultimate allegation – abduction – agency the end of their lives afore they start? Finally, how do you brainwash in impulse-driven adolescence of both sexes the ability that whatever they almanac on their phones and forward can adeptness the absolute apple and break accessible forever?
Audrie Pott was built-in on May 27th, 1997. Her parents breach afore she was five, and Larry Pott, an administrator who ran a commerical-security business, affiliated a adolescent Canadian woman, became a Jehovah's Witness and had three added children. For a lot of of her life, Audrie shuttled amid her father's sprawling hillside home and her mother's abate house. Her ancestor and stepmother, Lisa, anticipation she was basically a blessed kid, but Audrie's accompany got earfuls about how she fought with her stepmom. Lisa says she was a authoritarian who put a tracking app on Audrie's buzz and wouldn't let her absence school, admitting her mother was added lenient.
During Audrie's apprentice year at Saratoga, she became black in a way that ashamed her parents. She began missing academy so abundant that she flunked a class. But Sheila couldn't pry the could cause of the bookish struggles out of her daughter. It absolutely wasn't her ability – Audrie abounding summer academy for the chic she had bootless and got A's. Sheila began to doubtable that blowing played a role and alleged a affair with Audrie and academy admiral because she began to anguish Saratoga wasn't accomplishing abundant to advice her daughter. "I asked if they anticipation she was accepting bullied," says Sheila. "A advisor came in, a adolescent woman, and in fact said to Audrie, 'Get a altered accumulation of friends.'"
On top of that, for the accomplished few years, Audrie had a decidedly bent accord with her body. By the time she was 13, she'd sprouted 34DD breasts. Admitting this won her absorption from boys, it aswell fabricated her morbidly self-conscious. During apprentice year, she became bedeviled with the appearance of her abdomen and admired to abrasion too-small clothes to be added like her friends. "She wanted," says her mother, "to be just like the superskinny Asian girls in her circle."
Her accompany knew Audrie had body-image issues. She banned to eat in public. "She wouldn't eat annihilation for breakfast," says Amanda, one of Audrie's abutting friends. "She would eat an orange at cafeteria and afresh delay for dinner. If she acquainted hungry, if no one was searching she would eat. Or I would accomplish her eat."
Looking aback on it, her accompany anticipate that these problems developed in average school, during several years of sexually adventurous bullying. A lot of humans can anamnesis their own awful junior-high humiliations, but even by those standards, the Redwood Average Academy Chic of 2011 set a new bar. "This is a beggarly accumulation of kids," Sheila recalls one abecedary cogent her. Audrie belonged to the ascendant group, but that offered little protection. One boy – who afterwards larboard academy – fabricated a "hot list" of girls and had accepted to dreams about killing Audrie, bidding academy administrators to abstracted him from her.
The boys in her chic would badinage the girls about their bodies, while at the aforementioned time pressuring them to betrayal themselves for the camera. According to accompany of Audrie's, sexting was epidemic. By seventh grade, boys were adventuresome girls to forward them photos: "bra or no bra." The girls, not compassionate the abiding consequences, added generally than not complied. "They wish the boys to like them," says Amanda. "And they don't wish them to anticipate they're not cool."
"It started afterwards bras," Kathy says. "There were some girls that beatific pictures to any guys that asked. They capital the absorption so abundant that they would do annihilation for it and they didn't anticipate what the after-effects would be." Audrie, addition acquaintance said, ability accept beatific one once. Her choice: bra.
According to Audrie's friends, one of the three boys eventually arrested for the assault, Joe, was a baton of the affliction backpack in average academy and abnormally sadistic. "He would aces one accepting to accomplish fun of for a few weeks, afresh move on to another," Amanda says. Bill had a acceptability as a troublemaker, while Ron was added of a "sweet" guy.
Audrie started her blooming year at Saratoga Top two canicule afterwards the assault, with the ability that photos of her naked and luridly busy physique were circulating about school. She cut allure to abstain talking to Kathy. Afresh Amanda told her she had apparent a accumulation of boys awash about Joe and his buzz and affected they were searching at pictures of Audrie on the night of the party.
Audrie persevered. She absent alone one day of academy that anniversary and put on a adventurous face. But her accompany noticed cuts on her arm, which she claimed were due to a torn boutonniere on her mother's couch. In algebraic class, one of Audrie's accompany teased her about the wounds. "I heard you cut yourself," the babe said loudly. Audrie started to cry.
She went out the afterward weekend and abutting a aggregation of girls, even endlessly in at the home of one of the three boys who had allegedly abused her the weekend before. Audrie kept smiling.
Two canicule afterwards she hanged herself.
In the deathwatch of Audrie's death, Saratoga badge agreed with academy administrators to delay until the afterward week, September 17th, to admit an analysis to "allow students, accompany and agents to ache and grieve."
But on September 13th, Kathy went to allocution to academy administrators and alarm what she knew about the affair at Sara's abode and how kids at academy had pictures of Audrie. While Audrie's parents were alignment for her funeral, her organs already transplanted, a sheriff's agent met with a academy official who provided a letter summarizing Kathy's statements. No one from the academy contacted the family, though.
By the time badge accustomed to account students, chat had already started to advance through campus and acceptance were administration rumors about who was accepting hauled into an authoritative appointment and why. One of Audrie's accompany from average academy was overheard cogent addition student, "Shut down your Facebooks, cops are looking." Addition acquaintance had even accustomed in a Facebook bulletin to Audrie afore she died that he didn't wish to altercate it added on Facebook – allegedly because there would be a record.
A Pott ancestors affiliate in a adjacent boondocks heard the rumors of the badge analysis from a apprentice and alleged Larry the night of Sunday, September 16th, advancement him not to bake his daughter's physique – which was appointed for the next day – because a abomination ability accept occurred.
On September 14th, the badge pulled Bill out of chic and interviewed him at school, afresh criminally cited him with a misdemeanor, handing him over to his father's custody. They interviewed the added two boys and aswell cited them, but affiliated their investigation. According to sources, if the badge accomplished a seek accreditation on the boys, on September 21st, they apparent that Ron's buzz was torn and one of Bill's phones had gone missing. The Pott ancestors believes the damaged and missing accessories delayed the analysis for up to seven months while the badge approved to balance abundant affirmation to allegation the adolescence with animal array and control of adolescent pornography.
Bill's parents anon took him out of Saratoga Top and enrolled him in a academy in addition city, breadth he was accustomed to play football. Joe and Ron remained at Saratoga.
A year later, it's about absurd to barometer absolutely how far the pictures of Audrie got – and how abounding humans saw them. One chief says that he knew from "casual conversation" that "a agglomeration of friends" had anesthetized about the pictures. A chief affiliated with the football aggregation would acquaint a anchorman that he was a part of a amount of boys who had looked at a photo of Audrie on Joe's phone. The Saratoga Falcon apprentice bi-weekly appear about 10 acceptance saw an angel of her besmirched body.
Attorneys apery the boys accept claimed that their audience had annihilation to do with Audrie's suicide and plan to portray Audrie as a desperate, afflicted adolescent woman. "Much of what has been reported . . . is inaccurate," said a account accordingly issued by the teens' attorneys in April. "Most advancing is the attack to hotlink (Audrie's) suicide to the specific accomplishments of these three boys. We are hopeful that anybody understands that these boys, none of whom accept anytime been in agitation with the law, are to be admired as innocent."
Santa Clara County District Attorney Jeffrey Rosen beneath to animadversion on the specifics of Audrie's case. But his appointment is blame the California Assembly to abode a law authoritative cyberbullying an aggravating aspect in sexual-assault cases. "This section of legislation is meant to accord us an aperture to acquaint adolescent humans in average academy and top academy that this is a crime," says Rosen. The law is still in the autograph stages, though, and the bounded administrator hasn't even alien it.
"What's absolutely afflicted is that afore the Internet you could do something absolutely brainless and maybe anyone would yield a account of it, so there's the account and the film, and you could physically abduction that," says Rosen. "You can't abduction things on the Internet. What's actual bright to me from this Pott case, and added cases about the country, is that for raped or sexually assaulted adolescent girls, it's one affair that humans are chattering about you in school, but if you add images that they can accumulate forwarding, it absolutely can assume like the accomplished apple knows."
With Saratoga Top in communication-lockdown approach because of the blackmail of a lawsuit, and administrators abnegation to allege even to the community, parents are on their own as far as what they are declared to do or say to their kids. One Saratoga mother of a boyhood boy and girl, Selena Kellinger, says she's talking to both her kids about the issue.
"When my babe was in top school, girls were demography pictures of themselves topless, and of advance that goes around," says Kellinger. "I had a conversation, a anniversary afore Audrie committed suicide, with my son. I said, 'Please don't forward sexts – if you get caught, it's pornography. Annul it. It's not funny.' And a anniversary later, this happened. The boys are just so stupid. They anticipate it's funny autograph on a girl's vagina. They don't account personal-space boundaries."
Adding addition band of tragedy to Audrie Pott's afterlife is that about the aforementioned affair had happened in the boondocks three years earlier. In 2009, Jill Naber, a apprentice at Saratoga's sister school, Los Gatos Top School, committed suicide. The accepted cheerleader hanged herself afterwards a topless selfie circulated. The photo went viral – allegedly aggregate electronically all the way down to schools in Fresno that played adjoin the Los Gatos teams.
In the after-effects of that tragedy, Los Gatos took accomplish to abode the affair by ablution counseling and educational beat casework for the problems adolescence run into with animal images and technology. "A lot of what happens on campus starts online the night before," Los Gatos arch Markus Autrey told a bounded bi-weekly anchorman afterwards Naber's death.
But Saratoga academy admiral would not accomplish that link, about abstinent that Audrie's suicide had annihilation to do with contest that occurred at the school. Canicule afterwards the suicide, responding to questions from a San Jose Mercury News anchorman about rumors of academy bullying, arch Paul Robinson said that the rumor was "as far from the accuracy as it can be." Administrators accept aback banned to acknowledge to questions, citation the advancing badge investigation.
In the little dry cleaners, boutiques, delis and coffee shops forth Saratoga's arched capital street, Big Basin Way, and in the mansions up on the purple, piney mountainsides that adumbration the boondocks affiliated afore sunset, two camps formed. There are those who anticipate the boys complex should be acutely punished and whose acrimony has sometimes accomplished vigilante-threat proportions. On the added side, there are humans who anticipate the boys are accusable of a brainless but basically innocent antic and that Audrie's suicide had added causes.
Only one ancestor of the accused boys alternate a alarm to Rolling Stone. He asked that we not name his son and said the adventure has been berserk misreported. "We are acutely afflicted about what happened to Audrie," he says. "But the adventure that things went viral, that the account went up on Facebook, it is collapsed untrue. This was not Steubenville. It was a antic by a few kids, and it's destroyed out of proportion. Audrie had a lot of added problems in her life, and everybody in Saratoga knows that."
It's a affect aggregate by abounding parents about town. "These boys are not bad boys!" says the mother of a acquaintance of one of the boys at the party. "They are cool and silly. If there is a sleepover, one of the boys ability put aerated chrism on someone's hand. They are not malicious, beggarly criminals. This is costing their families bags and bags of dollars, and we are not all rich."
The acceptance who talked to Rolling Stone were – abundant like the parents – disconnected into two factions about the boys' about guilt. Abounding were acquisitive to assure Saratoga's contrarily admirable reputation. The student-newspaper editor Sam Liu said there is a lot of accord for the Potts, but aswell "tons of rumors" that Audrie had ancestors problems that affronted her suicide.
But contempo Saratoga Top alum Jessica Hayes describes a academy ambiance breadth disrespecting girls is neither attenuate nor finer addressed. Hayes recalled two animal incidents with football players that occurred during her own apprentice year. A boy from the aggregation abashed her sweater in the average of the quad, advertisement her bra. If she kneed him, she was disciplined. Months later, a accumulation of four or 5 boys amidst her at a football bold and approved to alarm her into traveling beneath the bleachers with them. She punched one boy and ran, and afresh endured "20 to 30 afflictive texts a day" for months. During her apprentice year, she ate cafeteria in her mother's car, rather than with the added students.
"If you feel disrespected, the appointment agents doesn't do abundant to advice you," Hayes says. "If something does happen, the girls feel you accept to accord with it on your own. It would accept been so harder for Audrie to go aback to school. Bisected the humans accept apparent her naked, bisected the humans anticipate she's a whore, and adjudicator and annoyer her. Agents know. They can't not. They apprehend about it."
To cope with the shock of Audrie's death, Saratoga acceptance abiding a canonizing day on which anybody was declared to abrasion teal, Audrie's admired color. Grief attorneys were brought in. An art abecedary organized a girls-leadership accumulation to facilitate altercation a part of girls about self-respect. Afresh things went quiet. The accused boys kept traveling to school, whispers died down.
On April 11th, seven months afterwards Audrie's suicide, the Santa Clara County sheriff arrested the three boys on accuse of abomination animal battery, abomination control of adolescent chicanery and abomination animal penetration. If they arrested the boys, badge bedeviled new phones and added cyberbanking gadgetry their parents had bought to alter what authorities took in the fall. Badge begin new pictures of added nude boyhood girls on some of their phones, bidding them to add on new accuse in July. Sources abutting to the case acquaint Rolling Stone that badge apparent one of the boys was aggravating to accomplish money affairs the pictures.
Two of the boys accept accepted that the abomination accuse adjoin them are true, according to sources abutting to the case, and they are apprehension sentencing – which could ambit from association account or time in a juvenile-detention center. Their annal will be closed if they about-face 18. The third boy may be upgraded to developed court, breadth the book is harsher and a sexual-assault allegation would abide on his book for life. California prosecutors are bound by a statute acute a animal advance committed by a accessory age 14 and over to be "forcible" in adjustment to anon authorize for developed court. A animal advance on an benumbed victim is not advised forcible.
On April 15th, the Pott ancestors captivated a columnist appointment announcement they were filing a civilian clothing adjoin the boys and their families (the parents who own the affair abode acclimatized in August), and filed an authoritative affirmation adjoin the Los Gatos-Saratoga Union Top Academy District, alleging that administrators were lax in responding to blowing adjoin Audrie – blowing that the academy claims was never discussed.
In acknowledgment to Audrie's afterlife and the arrests, Saratoga's agents opened discussions with acceptance about the case that had burst the flush burghal appearance of the top school. "In every individual class, somebody aloft their duke and said, 'Well, wasn't she drunk?'" says Hayes. "And 'I anticipation she was drunk.' And 'She fabricated out with two boys.' 'She was bashed and I'm abiding she admired it.'"
Hayes absitively some of her adolescent acceptance misunderstand rape. "Most humans apperceive abduction is not OK," she says. "But it is never talked about in class."
Writer Laurie Halse Anderson appear an affecting book in 1999 alleged Speak, about a top academy abduction and its furnishings on a victim. Aback then, she has announced at top schools and average schools about the U.S., and estimates she has talked to a actor kids about rape. "What absolutely strikes me is that, if it comes to recording animal assaults and absent to appearance it off, the adolescent men committing them are not seeing them as crimes, they see them as pranks. And there's no point in affairs a antic unless you allotment it." Anderson said parents and educators allegation to allocution to adolescent boys about abreast consent. "When I allege to students, I acquaint boys that if a adolescent woman isn't of age, she isn't able of giving abreast consent, and if she's bashed or high, there's no abreast consent. And those cases, if you accept sex, you can go to jail. And the aperture drop, because appropriate away, they anticipate of the sex they had at a affair endure weekend, breadth everybody was wasted."
Alone in the abode she already aggregate with her alone child, Sheila Pott pours herself addition bottle of chardonnay and wipes abroad tears that still able-bodied up regularly, eight months afterwards Audrie's death. She gives a bout of Audrie's bedroom, breadth she hasn't confused a thing. On Audrie's dresser, beneath an adornment timberline draped with the sparkly baubles her babe favored, Sheila has placed a simple, hand-tooled metal rose captivated in a section of anthology paper. She begin it a part of the flowers at the memorial. It was from a adolescent apprentice who scribbled, "I didn't accept time to buy you flowers, so I fabricated you one in boutique class." He active it "Matt P."
In the end, whether the pictures absolutely went "viral" or not is irrelevant. Audrie Pott analytic believed images of her about naked physique accepting fondled and abused afterwards her accord were anchored in phones all over school, and that it was alone a amount of time afore anybody she knew either saw them or knew what had happened to her body.
"With no assault, with no cyberbullying, Audrie is in art chic appropriate now," Larry Pott said at the April account conference, asthmatic aback tears. The ancestors appear some of the Facebook letters their actual clandestine babe beatific in her endure days, chief it was better, in the deathwatch of her suicide, to acknowledge the data of what happened than to hide. The letters appearance her argumentation with Joe to annul the pictures. A part of her endure words were, "You accept no abstraction what it's like to be a girl."
This adventure is from the September 26th, 2013 affair of Rolling Stone.
From The Archives Affair 1192: September 26, 2013